New Year, Old Baggage!

As we are stepping into a new year, what better time than now than to leave our baggage from 2021 behind? I compiled a list of pointers to help keep old news in the old year, and start this new year off fresh. In case you didn’t know already, I’m a let’s get straight to it type of person. With that being said, get your pen + paper ready, and lets get straight to it!

Tip #1: Pinpoint Things That Make You Feel Uneasy

If something doesn’t feel right, most times whatever it is is being forced. It’s important to go with things that flow, and not force things (including relationships) that no longer serve you. This can be a romantic relationship, a friendship that now feels more like a fauxship, a job, or any other thing that takes up your precious time. Time is not to be wasted on anything, or anyone that doesn’t encourage you to do or feel your absolute best. Pinpoint what those things are, and give them the boot.

Tip #2: Face The Fight

At some point, I’m sure each of us has swept an uncomfortable conversation/situation under the rug to avoid conflict, or an unwanted response. If we do this repeatedly, eventually the rug starts to lump up and no longer lays as flat and beautifully as it is intended to. Now I must admit, I’ve learned not every uncomfortable feeling needs to be addressed. Those are the ones that you can just stop thinking about, and couldn’t really care less about once the appropriate amount of time has passed. However, if there is an uncomfortable situation that continues to linger, address it so you can more forward. Before addressing whatever it is though, ask yourself if it’s worth it. It being your time and energy. As we know, it’s important to protect our energy and peace at all costs. Which brings me to my next tip.

Tip #3: Don’t Rely On Anyone Else For The Closure You Need

Sure closure is nice, but sometimes that other person may not be able to give you the closure you’re looking to receive. The truth is, sometimes they aren’t able to give you the closure not because they can’t… they just might not want to. Like Silk Sonic, they may be intentionally “leaving the door open”. As I’ve said before - and will say again - communication is key. If you and whomever are mature enough to have an open and honest conversation, great! - just know this is not always the case. I’ve learned that sometimes you’ll have the conversation without both people being completely honest, which could actually leave you more confused than you were beforehand. So how can you get the closure for yourself by yourself? That’s a great question! Accept things for what they were, and accept things for what they are now. We will discuss this more in Tip #5. Before we get there though…

Tip #4: Trust The Timing

This may be the hardest one. Things happen in their due time. So much just ran through my brain about this because a sista can relate! Some people are in your life for a season, a reason, or a lifetime. This ties in to Tip #1. We can try to force things to remain as is, but this in no way in helping us elevate into who/what we are meant to be/do. Not just with relationships… trusting the timing goes for where we want to be in life in general. I used to say, “By the time I’m 30, I will run a multi million dollar empire, have this huge house, and blah blah blah”. None of those things, including the blah blah blah’s have happened quite yet, but I am still trusting in God’s timing, and I know if this is what He wants for me, it’ll happen exactly when and how He wants it to. The same goes for when I had past relationships, friendships, old jobs, etc. Those situations are in the past because that’s where they are supposed to be. It’s important to leave past things there in order to make room for fresh, new, exciting things that are meant for now, and do this again for things that are meant for later.

Last tip of the day? I don’t see why not….

Tip #5: Embrace The Change

Don’t sulk over what was - get excited about what is! Live in the moment, and fully embrace what life has to offer you. If your focus is stuck on the past, you may miss what’s in front of you now.

So there you have it… some tips to help you leave old baggage where it belongs. I hope these pointers were helpful for you. If there are any topics you would like me to discuss in the future, email matchedbymecki@gmail.com .

xoxo,

Mecki